Who We Are, What We Like And Who We Want To Be

Self-analysis and Reflection

We continuously compare ourselves with others, on our appearance, image and profile which we persevere on what we portray to our family, friends and the general public every minute, hour, day and lifetime. So why do we not compare ourselves to our internal profile and self-image?

Through the process of self-analysis and reflection of our internal profile consisting of thoughts, emotions, feelings and actions, we will get a much better understanding of who we are, what we like and who we want to be. Instead of waiting for others to approve what we should look like, act like and live like in their eyes and artificial world. This whole new concept in our world that we must be judged and approved by others to believe we are happy and content in ourselves, sounds ludicrous.

We have The Grit Scale which allows people to assess their own levels of grit. But more important than placing oneself on a continuum is understanding how to become grittier.

There are numerous or shall we say thousands of surveys, questionnaires and checklist which one can use to judge our internal profile, here are a few basic questions or frameworks individuals can utilize to dig a bit deeper into our inner world and start to manage the world we want to live in.

  • Do you have the courage to succeed
  • What area of your life do you feel really “gritty”
  • What area of your life that makes you feel “gritless”
  • This is not about overcoming hardships in life and then doing well
  • This is to ask yourself about when you have set a difficult, far-off goal, and was able to achieve it.
  • The goal you were aiming for
  • The obstacles/struggles you had to overcome and how you were able to manage those
  • What is your life like now that you have accomplished the big goal
  • During your life so far, what has been one of the biggest goals you’ve set that you were able to achieve?
  • What did you have to do to accomplish that goal?
  • Where did you get your inspiration?
  • Were there any obstacles that got in your way? If so, how did you handle that? What about people? Were there any people who discouraged you while reaching for your goal?
  • Did you ever think of giving up? If so, how did you overcome that feeling?
  • When you achieved your goal, how did it help you in life? -OR- What is your life like now that you have accomplished your goal?

The Grit Table

Here is a table which is adaptable or flexible to your own requirements and what you are experiencing in life and how you are handling them. Ideally we envisage having all our actions to be in the Grit column but even if you have more than half of them, then you are on the right track.

GRIT Lifeschocks No Grit
Persevere through
without losing
Adversity Giving up
Never become victims
because they retain
personal choice
Setbacks Becoming a victim and
continue to receive the
same setbacks
Are more consistent Disappointments Stop trying to avoid the
Focus on what they
can control
Failures Accept failures and give up
Learn from mistakes
and then let go
Rejection Accepting the rejection
and continue to live
Self-Control Criticism
Will Power Temptations Gambling, gaming,
eating, drinking etc


Who doesn’t have grit… ???????? U

Kids Raised with:

  • Chronic stress
  • Adversity
  • Lack of comforting
  • Damaged executive functions

Lack ability to:

  • Concentrate
  • Sit still
  • Rebound
  • Follow directions
  • Deal with confusion and unpredictability
  • Overcome instinctive reaction
  • Hold several facts in head at once

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